My decision making formula for greener grasses
DARE TO CHOOSE: HAPPINESS
Some time ago, I felt myself facing a dilemma: should I stay and give my all to change the people and environments around me? The politics, the society, the opportunities, the relationships that I had clearly outgrown? Be dutiful and continue to fight the windmills no matter the cost to my own happiness? OR Am I allowed to go, follow my highest dreams and callings, follow my heart to where it yearns to go and take on new challenges that speak to my soul?
It might seem obvious, but it so often isn't. How do we know we need to keep on giving through commitment and love, and when do we know that it's time to go?
My formula is actually quite simple: follow the guidance that comes to you when you feel your BEST.
When you feel your best (the moments when you feel empowered, clear, flowing...whatever the "best" might mean to you) and you want to go, but when you feel your worst (fears on the surface), you'd rather stay? - Go.
When you feel your best, you would like to stay, and feeling your worst makes you want to leave? There is a high chance you would not be following your highest guidance but rather just escaping your feelings. - Stay and face your fears.
It's actually so simple.
And yet, as I see so often with my most awesome and brave clients, when they want to and DESERVE to choose their happiness, they face their own biggest enemy: guilt. It's as if we are not allowed to be happy. As if it doesn't matter in life. But it does! It's ALL that matters! And no, it's not about "grass being greener on the other side", although, to be honest, it just MIGHT be when you truly follow your guidance. When we live in misalignment with our own soul and vibration - the person we've grown into - we start to see the world covered in grey. E-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g becomes heavy and difficult. We are literally trying to live in a box we don't fit into anymore. So yes, following your calling is not challenge-free - but the new challenges are inviting and manageable, they are interesting and ALIVE, they can even be funny and wonky and they feed your soul the same way success does - and you can literally FEEL and SEE yourself growing and expanding in real-time. So yes, YES....the grass IS greener on the other side. The grass is greener every time we find the courage to face the UNKNOWN and dive in and allow ourselves to feel it all. Come what may.
Ultimately, the only way to make the world a better place to live is to fully increase the number of people who are truly happy and brave enough to let go of the old and follow their hearts. Starting with YOU.
Now this all might have read a tad bit "inspirational" or "cliche" even, but it's actually extremely practical. It's the only formula you need for any kind of decision you face. That's it. And if guilt knocks you off? Call me. I shall remind you of your innocence. (;
Hi! I’m IIDALA aka Iida-Leena Materasu, and I’m a professional therapist, writer, spiritual mentor, mother, woman, and human being, who has walked the path of healing for more than 20 years. I facilitate breathwork and nondual healing groups, offer courses, subscription programs, and silent nature walks as well as receive clients one-on-one live and via zoom. To book a session or get more info on NONDUAL courses or programs, feel free to explore the website or contact me directly.