Moving beyond frustration
So. Yesterday I had a wonderful client.
And we talked a lot about stories. How the stories and judgements we hold and hook on different activities, people, situations and attitudes steal away our gest for life and hold us back from positive action. We feel helpless, hopeless and powerless. Overwhelmed, stressed and frustrated.
We had a breathsession and found practical steps she can take in her everyday life to overcome this phenomenon and get her empowerment back.
This morning I received the following letter from her:
“My kids left around 9 AM, and I just started to take on different activities, all the while calling myself back into presence...it helped quite well! When I finally sat behind my computer, I still felt a bit contracted... I opened your meditations and did the meditation on limitless expansion… it helped me well! It’s much easier and more expanded to breathe. And I can feel the inner urge to do stuff, to get busy! So that’s what I’ll do! I’m super grateful that you have those meditations as a free resource. For many times already, it’s been my spiritual and mental health first aid kit. I open them and look inside: what kind of band-aid do I need today?”
Quite remarkable, huh? Therapy has to have real-life effects and practical outcomes.
But! What about me? A few days ago, I wrote to an institution I’ve wanted to visit for the second time already and received, yet again, a dismissive answer. I felt such frustration! Like, how come? Why can’t they be a little more flexible and answer to the moment and circumstances instead of following strict rules? I know I would be flexible… etc.
It was late, and I decided to go to bed. I woke up with anxiety. And made a clear decision: I want to step out of the automatic programs of my mind and body. Frustration leads nowhere. I also received a “message” that a solution would emerge in an unexpected way. I decided to sit down and write a bit: how I feel, what I want to express, what I want to create… And I was just placing my pen on paper to start writing when I felt myself drifting into deep and expanded meditation.
My head fell into incredible softness, and all my problems and troubles seemed teeny-tiny small. My whole head/brain/nervous system started to rejuvenate. I only got one sentence on paper: “Everything is working out for me.” I felt a Great and Loving Presence in the room and heard the message: “I hear you. I take care of you.”
Intuitively, I started to send flowers to the people who had rejected me. I saw them smile, getting a huge donation, seeing the whole environment in rose-golden light and I just blessed and blessed and blessed…
I opened my eyes, and the whole “story” and “judgement” that I had hooked on the simple “no” the day before were all gone. All that was left was a question and an answer. Completely neutral. I only saw possibilities now. My whole being was filled with trust and work-related focus.
Quite cosy, I’d say.
And if this story inspired you to step out of your own mind-stories, or do a little meditation, then you can find a few from my free resources here.
Hi! I’m IIDALA, aka Iida-Leena Materasu, and I’m a professional therapist, writer, spiritual guide, mother, woman, and human being, who has walked the path of healing for more than 20 years. I facilitate breathwork and nondual healing groups, offer courses, subscription programs, and silent nature hikes as well as receive clients one-on-one live and via zoom. To book a session or get more info on NONDUAL courses or programs, feel free to explore the website or contact me directly.