I allow you to love me…
…the way you see fit. The way you allow yourself to be loved. The way you can and are willing.
My capacity to love and allow is independent of your choices and current realities. The way you love is enough, for me. But is it enough, for you?
When we start to restrict Love, in any way, when we try to protect ourselves by cutting feelings off or people off, we close ourselves in a small box. Almost like a coffin, as it starts to kill us, slowly. We choose to live on dripping tap water instead of immersing ourselves in the Source.
From very early on, we haven’t seen examples of people setting boundaries and saying “no” without cutting the flow of Energy/Love at the same time. It’s a foreign concept for most of us. We live in a world of duality: it’s either a yes to everything or total separation. But human relationships are meant to work differently in optimal balance. We are meant to dance with each other. And dancers, you know, they are always aware of their centre, of their balance point, of their core.
Saying “no” does not have to equal closing your heart. Don’t give “no” the power to stop your Life energy from flowing.
When we stop waiting around for everybody to learn how to love us, we start allowing Love in all the different ways, and from a multitude of different channels. We start allowing our own Life energy to fully flow and dance again! We start seeing Love everywhere. In the “no”, in the silence, in the cracking of the burning wood. We start seeing Love in the eyes of worrying people, in suffering, in fear. It was hard to see before because we were so afraid of how it was going to affect us. We were so afraid of our own feelings that we cut ourselves off. We didn’t know that in the Heart of every feeling, we find Love. And there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of. And we didn’t know how to say “no”, or how to have boundaries without limiting ourselves in the process.
We didn’t know that seeing someone’s suffering or just a process of going through emotions…and being affected are also two different things.
Your dance partner may fall, and you can see it without falling with him. And then you can decide if a Loving choice for you is to Love and Leave or Love and Stay. If it is to Love and provide space or Love and lend a helping hand. And sometimes, the Loving choice towards yourself is to lay down with him, look him deep in his eyes and say, “I’m sorry, I Love you”. As it is as safe as anything else. When all of the feelings are safe, when you know your core, when you know who you are, then all of the choices are open.
You can allow other people close without mixing your whole energy system with their levels and ways and fears and patterns. You can commit to Life and allow everything without the constant struggle.
So. I can allow you to Love me. Without falling apart over the ways you see fit. Without getting caught up in your Love, without getting caught up in your fear. I can only allow energy through when I am keenly aware of my centre, of my main energy channel and keenly aware of safety and relaxation, of allowing through. As soon as I tense, I lose my balance.
I can only dance with you when I am keenly aware of my skin and the connections that form beyond the limits of the seemingly physical body. When I am keenly aware of my energy system and can relax in my body and relax in my system without becoming a blob who loses herself in the trauma, but allowing my whole structure to shine instead and allowing the sacred geometry of Me to become visible to those who are willing to see, and allowing my groundedness to ground you too, if need be and I so choose, and you so choose.
Hi! I’m IIDALA, aka Iida-Leena Materasu, and I’m a professional therapist, writer, spiritual guide, mother, woman, and human being, who has walked the path of healing for more than 20 years. I facilitate breathwork and nondual healing groups, offer courses, subscription programs, and silent nature hikes as well as receive clients one-on-one live and via zoom. To book a session or get more info on NONDUAL courses or programs, feel free to explore the website or contact me directly.