Personal touch (and rejections)
Every time I think about offering some program or service at a low and very affordable price for a wider audience, I mull it over and conclude that it would remove the part I love the most about my work: the personal touch and the intimate connection. The old masters in non-dual tantra never had more than a few followers at a time. They went deep and personal and truly changed these people's lives forever. The modern western culture does not allow such intimacy in teaching the craft. Still, I want to get as close as possible while remaining fully in my own centre and allowing the other person to be inspired, empowered and in her/his own true authentic authority and power.
Just this morning, I had a client sending me some music. I loved it. I love receiving music. Writings. Poems. Feedback. Questions. Shared moments and miracles. Profound and spontaneous conversations. I love answering; I love the interaction; I love the true connection. All this would not be truly possible if I'd have thousands of people going through the programs and paths I create with the Mother. My paths and guidance will always reach and touch the ones who are meant to work with me, and so we can touch the lives of Me and You in meaningful and forever ways.
That is the reason I see my prices going up and not down, with the exception of some free or almost free webinars and the free content I share with Love for the benefit of everyone. This is why I see the quality going up and quantity taking care of itself. I see my Life and Work immersing more and more with nature, with pure creativity, and this style of living and working can only attract the ones who know, while looking at the clock, that it's wholly possible to make the time stop and step out to play. And at the same time, I want you to know that All is Welcome Here, in respect and love.
Personal Touch is also the way I see myself living my Life. I can not buy a house that has walls that do not speak to me. I can't imagine a world without a living fire or pouring rain. Crooked walls, crackling bonfires, and wet hair make up the building blocks of this magical life experience. And there will never be an intimate human relationship in my life without a level of deep and aware quality to it.
The ones closest to me know well that I've been working on melting away the fear of rejection from my experience and body. One of the things I suddenly realised after receiving a very reasonable and loving rejection from a professional is that I understand and respect each and every human who doesn't believe in me, who rejects what I offer or ask for in one way or another or who criticise and/or judge me. I even respect the ones who don't answer my letters and questions. (Something that used to bother me a lot!) That's because they are My People. I am the one who can say "no" in a heartbeat and keep on loving while doing it. I am the one who always feels through and can give an honest rejection. I am the one who always strives for honest feedback and empowering people to their fullest potential. I am the one who is not afraid of any feeling or emotion, conflict or resolution. I hear you. I'm with you. If what I'm asking for is something you can't do or give, for whatever reason, please, do reject me. If what I offer is not something you value, understand or doesn't fit your quality standards - please, do tell me! I get it! I LOVE quality. And while I do my best, I'm just a human, and the creative process takes me through mountains and valleys and sometimes I just want you to hear something without much effort on the form. And sometimes, I'm tired, and the essence is maybe 70 or 80% of what I'm capable of offering. And sometimes, I simply fail! Sometimes I'm so eager that I start to babble and drift away from my own centre. And this all means that I'm a human with some crooked walls, I'm made of character, and I do not ever strive for perfection. I simply follow the essence of quality as truthfully as I can, and this means that I LOVE a rejection, and I love YOU for saying "no".
People who can't take "no" for an answer build highway tunnels through mountains or give up altogether. I like to follow the secret mountain path on foot or up on a horse, camp through the night and admire the starlight. When we hear a "no" and keep on going with simple changes, twists and bends, and keep on climbing and walking, we get a quality journey. We get wisdom way more precious than any speedway could ever give us. And that's how the personal touch and saying no/receiving a "no" will always go hand in hand. Every time you hear a "no", it's like an intimate touch from the Universe itself.
When you can finally smile at rejection, you will taste such freedom as you've never touched before. Suddenly there is nothing, absolutely nothing in this world, that could shut your light. You've stepped into a meaningful conversation with the reality. You are PART of it now. Life is not sugarcoating you, nor is it ignoring you; it is communicating with you in an equal way. Welcome. Here begins your path among Your People.
Hi! I’m IIDALA, aka Iida-Leena Materasu, and I’m a professional therapist, writer, spiritual guide, mother, woman, and human being, who has walked the path of healing for more than 20 years. I facilitate breathwork and nondual healing groups, offer courses, subscription programs, and silent nature hikes as well as receive clients one-on-one live and via zoom. To book a session or get more info on NONDUAL courses or programs, feel free to explore the website or contact me directly.